6 Tips To Become An Online Dominatrix – How To Successfully Learn To Be A Powerful Dominatrix

A question I am coming across a lot is ‘how do I become an online dominatrix?’ Well, I have some exciting tips on how you can become an Online Dominatrix and where you can meet others that are of the like.

Many want to become a financial dominatrix and whilst that is harder, you can still become an online dominatrix and learn more about it and how to become one. Why not check out my post on Tips For Starting As A Financial Dominatrix.

Findom or financial domination is a fetish where the sub (Submissive/Paypig) will transfer money to someone either by being told (this is completely under the control of the submissive and under an agreement) or in exchange for something such as a naked picture or something the Sub wants. Findom can be hard to crack, but many are successful with it.

You can be a dominatrix without money being involved too, so it’s not all about being financial. Although many think it’s an easy way to gain money. But it is much more than that.

If you are looking at how to become a financial dominatrix, then you want to consider my other post!

So, let’s get into this, shall we?

6 Tips To Become An Online Dominatrix – How To Successfully Learn To Be A Powerful Dominatrix

Find Your Sub/s

The first port of call to become an online Dominatrix is to find a sub online. You want to look into places exclusively for domination and Fetlife is the site I see consistently, although their groups have specific rules and generally, Findom is not allowed. But you will be able to easily find a sub and start your journey together. I have previously used it many years ago, it is a great site for finding people that are into BDSM and findom.

There are also many dedicated sites, even for dating where you can find people that are interested in being a sub or even just looking for some kinky roleplay.

Make Time For Your Sub/s

The most important aspect if you want to become an online Dominatrix is to make sure you have the time for it. You need to be in contact frequently and can’t choose when and where you pick it back up. This is unfair for the sub as they will be looking for someone to give them time.

You may struggle to do it as a hobby and might be better off going to places like Second Life where it’s a virtual world and you can pick up where you left off, but you likely won’t have the same sub.

You both need to talk and understand you can not be at your beck and call 24/7, we all have a life so it is wise to consider other ways to communicate and what times you are both available. Come to an agreement so neither side are feeling let down.

Make Sure You Stay Safe

When you are thinking of entering the world of dominance and submission, you want to make sure you are staying safe. It’s important you are looking after your information and especially your banking or online payment systems when you want to become an online Dominatrix.

If you are being paid for things, make sure you are using secure payment places such as PayPal and not giving out any personal details, on both sides.

Meeting someone can be scary, you want to make sure that if you are meeting someone, you are telling someone you trust where you are, or even taking someone with you initially. Keep in contact with your trusted person and make sure you are safe.

Alternatively, try locating local places where you can mutually meet, maybe start with a coffee or see if there are any places like dungeons where you can meet and stay safe. Generally, they have security and always keeping an eye on what is going on.

Discuss Boundaries, Limits And Stopping

Once you have found someone willing to be your sub, you want to get down to the fundamentals and the most important aspect of your role, the boundaries, limits and discussing how to stop. This is an important aspect of how to become an online dominatrix.

You want to consider how to be safe with dom and sub relationships. This will ensure you are both doing things how you want it and there is no need to stop. Communication is very vital and important.

Boundaries are really important, this confirms on both sides what you are looking for and what your boundaries are. Things that are not to be mentioned and things that make you feel really uncomfortable. Generally, most people have boundaries and it can be things like, not turning up at their home, not following them, not contacting them during specific hours (like kids being at home).

Then we have limits. These are things that are an absolute no on both sides. This is a great way to find out what your likes and dislikes are, then you have soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are a no, but we can discuss trying something similar. Or you might change your mind. Hard limits are an absolute no.

Finally, we get to how you both are going to stop if something is too much or too painful. For example, using keywords or a traffic light system is really great for telling someone that you are uncomfortable or completely stop.

Green is good to go, amber you are not comfortable and red is stopped completely.

There are other things you could use, random words that have nothing to do with stop, like banana.

So think about how you can protect both you and your partner when you are looking to become an online dominatrix.

Learn From Others

There are many books on amazon such as The Mistress in control which goes into how to be a Mistress. Or Vanilla to Kinky which explores how to change your sex life and take a dominant/submissive role in the relationship.

Then there is a great series as below which explores how to become a mistress/master or even a submissive.
Dom’s Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your Submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire: Volume 1 (Guide to Healthy BDSM)
Dom’s Guide To BDSM Vol. 2: 71 Submissive Training & Reconditioning Tips Any Dom/Master Must Know (Guide to Healthy BDSM)
Dom’s Guide to BDSM Training: Your Friendly Handbook on How to Train Your New Sub

Many write about their experiences online which is always a good place to start. There are many websites that go into detail on how to be dominant and give you tips and tricks into it.

Toys and Gadgets

If you are doing this online or offline, you want to consider what toys and gadgets you want.

Depending on your sub, they might want you to use toys and gadgets on them, maybe they like to be spanked or whipped, maybe they want you to use cages on their genitalia.

I have come up with a guide to the best BDSM toys and Gadgets that are available on Amazon where you can purchase the things you both like.

You can do a lot of teasing with a flogger, just check out videos on how to use them as well as reading up on what toys are best and having an open conversation on what toys and gadgets you can both use.

Final Thoughts

If you want to become an online dominatrix, there are many ways you can learn and also get the confidence to be a dominatrix and let yourself learn from others.

You can find toys and gadgets to help or consider reading material that can help you along your way.

Have you considered becoming a dominatrix? Is this something you are interested in?

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