Dominance And Submission And Staying Safe
Whether you role play or use this in every day life, you should be considering about dominance and submission and staying safe.
I thought I would write a handy guide on staying safe, whether this is with a partner or finding a new partner. It’s important that you consider these things prior or during.
Dominance And Submission And Staying Safe
Communication
The most important aspect is communication. At all times communication is essential and the number one thing to consider.
Before getting into it, have a long discussion and outline both of your limits. We all have limits so being open about it is important.
Discuss things you want to try and what intrigues you. Ensuring that before you act anything out, you discuss what will happen on both sides. This avoid any surprises or making the act uncomfortable.
Once you have finished, also discuss how it went. What you liked, what you disliked and of course, things you want to try again.
Communicating keeps you both on the same page.
Keywords
Having a keyword as a stop signal is very important and should be communicated prior to any act.
Whether you use a traffic light system, such as green is fine, orange/amber is a warning you are feeling uncomfortable and of course, red meaning stop.
Alternatively you can use a specific keyword for stopping, this can be any word or simply stop.
Using this means your partner or yourself stop immediately and then discuss after where it made you feel uncomfortable.
There are other signals you can use, hand signals for example. So long as it is clear, choose something that suits you.
Start small
If you are new to this, start small. Light spanks or using toys. As you gain more confidence you can explore more and may find you are more open to other things.
Don’t jump in head first trying the more serious acts, I would slowly work your way up.
Trying heavier things could end up pushing you away so start small and see how you like it.
Research
It is imperative that you research before you try this out. There are many things to do so exploring and researching is wise.
Especially if you use the more deeper forms of play, make sure you research this well so nothing will go wrong.
If there is anything you do that inflicts pain in any form, ensure you are researching the possible negative connotations, such as infections.
Some acts that involve something that could be potentially dangerous, make sure you get as much knowledge as you can before you try this. We have seen accidents happen when playing and you want to avoid this as best as possible.
Stay safe
With staying safe, there are many aspects of this. From meeting new people to using toys or keeping areas clean.
Now with meeting people, always make sure the first meet is in public, a cafe or a restaurant. Ensure someone knows at all times where you are. This is important when fetish dating.
Never give out personal information unless you really know the person and understand they will not be doing anything negative. Unfortunately there are some pretty bad people out there.
Use safe websites such as subs-and-doms.com and remember not to give out personal information.
When playing, keep all toys and equipment sterilised and clean. If you do acts that involve pain, make sure you have everything to keep the area and items clean and also keep a well packed first aid kit.
Final thoughts
The key aspects are to stay safe, communicate and keeping clean.
Ensuring this will give you a pleasurable time, but also baring in mind of the limits of play and when to stop.
Stay safe and have fun!
*This is a collaboration post
